Things Every Person Should Do Alone At Least Once

Earlier this week, I came across an article on the Global News website that peaked my interest.  It was about the benefits of doing certain things alone, at least once in life. Things like travelling, spending time out in nature, celebrating your birthday, and treating yourself, all made the list. The article claims that doing these things alone, instead of with others, builds a greater sense of empathy, according to a study from Harvard University. Of course, I can neither confirm nor deny the validity of this study, but it did make me reflect on some of the things I have done alone in my life, and the benefits that came from that.

Here are some of the things that I think everyone (especially women!), should do alone at some point in their lives.

TRAVEL

Why it’s important:

  • Forces you to meet people
  • Learn a lot about yourself
  • Increases self-confidence

 

Travel made the article’s list of things to do alone and I completely agree. Travelling on your own can be nerve-racking and intimidating, but it can also feel incredibly adventurous and liberating. Exploring a new country, learning the customs and meeting new people are all things that one can experience when travelling. It doesn’t even have to be far!

Some cool places to go explore on your own could even be New York, Boston or Chicago (all places you can get to by bus or train). And if you’re feeling a little extra adventurous and have some extra cash, why not check out Amsterdam, Sydney, Rome, or Tokyo? But wait! Are you feeling crazy brave?? Try a safari in Africa, visit Machu Picchu or a take a ski vacation to the Swiss Alps. The truth is, it doesn’t really matter what you choose or how far you go. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about where you are, it’s about the things you’ll learn about yourself and the people you’ll meet.

When I was 18, just after I had graduated high school, I travelled on my own to Spain. My trip lasted for about a month, and it really made me realize a lot of things about myself. I loved the sense of responsibility and freedom I had when I travelled by myself. Having to live and get around on my own taught me a lot about my strengths and weaknesses. I also tried things I wouldn’t normally try at home and that made me realize I can be a little more adventurous than I give myself credit for. And, I truly made memories that I’ll cherish forever.

Looking back on my trip now, I can see just how much I grew in that month abroad, especially at the age of 18. So go out and explore the world. You’ll be glad you did.

TIP: Keep track of your trip in a travel journal. It will be a nice thing to go back and read 10 years later. Check this one out from Amazon:

 

GO OUT

Why it’s important:

  • Increases self-confidence
  • Don’t have to compromise
  • Boosts personal growth & development

 

And by go out I don’t mean, go out without your significant other to meet your girlfriends. I mean go out alone for the whole evening, like, for dinner or to a movie. It’s one thing to travel to a new city or country, where nobody knows you and you probably won’t see anybody from there ever again. There’s an exciting sense of adventure in that. But when we go out alone in our own city, sometimes we feel way more intimidated and nervous. We’re afraid of what other people might think if they see us sitting alone. Do it anyway.

Sure, you might be a bit uncomfortable at first, but it’s important to push past that, get out of your comfort zone. This is how we grow and develop as people, women, individuals. Plus, you’ll be surprised how good you can feel about yourself when you don’t care what others think!

Also, do you know how it feels to not have to compromise? In all relationships, there is some type of compromise. Not even your closest friends want to do exactly the same thing as you all of the time. Don’t get me wrong, compromising is not a bad thing, as long as it’s going both ways. But going out alone means no compromising for a little while. At all. You can choose any restaurant, any type of food, any movie you want, without ever even wondering if the other person is enjoying themselves. Sounds like a pretty nice break from the norm.

LIVE ALONE

Why it’s important:

  • Learn a lot about yourself
  • Gain independence
  • Don’t have to compromise

 

Living alone is not something that everyone gets to do. It’s also not something that everyone really wants to do. I get it, it’s expensive (case in point this article from the Globe and Mail), and let’s be honest, it can be quite lonely and boring at times. I’m not saying that you need to live alone for a long time, in fact, I only did it for a little while. But I do think that some time is better than no time at all.

It really goes back to a few of the same benefits as travelling alone in that it gives you freedom and independence. And again, you don’t have to compromise on things, similar to going out on your own. But what living alone really comes down to, in terms of benefits, is just how much you’ll learn about yourself in this time. You’ll learn all about what you really like and dislike, what routines make you comfortable, and what makes home special for you, as an individual. Not as a couple. Not as a roommate. But what makes home YOUR sanctuary.

Of course, as a plus, you’ll also learn how to cook, keep up with house chores and ‘fend for yourself’. Maybe. Or you’ll learn the best takeout restaurants in your neighbourhood, and the best corners and chairs to pile your clothes in every room. Either way you’re learning something!

TAKE A DAY

Why it’s important:

  • Explore your interests
  • Boosts personal growth & development
  • Increase self-confidence
  • BONUS: It’s fun!

 

This one I personally think we should do for ourselves every once in a while, and not just once in our lifetime. Take a day out of that busy schedule of yours and do everything that you want to do in your city, and do it alone.

Taking a full day for yourself gives you a chance to explore your interests without anybody interfering. Anywhere you’ve been dying to go for coffee, an event that’s going on, going for a walk in a part of the city you’ve never been to, whatever you can think of, just go out and do it by yourself. Just think of all the possibilities. Oh, and also, you’ll have a great time!

 

 

 

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  1. Kobby

    August 8, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    I grew up as an introvert so i did pretty much everything on my own. But for some time now, I’ve learned how to relate with others bit then i still enjoy my time alone. I believe it helps me learn more about myself. I ever traveld to another place for 3 months but i was younger than 18 and it was amazing. I also loved the sense of responsibility and freedom.

    1. My Slice of Happy

      August 8, 2017 at 5:57 pm

      Hi Kobby, thanks for your comment! I agree, the sense of responsibility & freedom were great. Nice to hear from someone who is comfortable doing things alone!

  2. Greta Lamfel

    August 8, 2017 at 6:33 pm

    Travelling is so important. It opens up the mind.

  3. Jamie Rockers

    August 8, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    Great article buddy.
    Very informative and loved this one.
    You have written everything perfectly.

  4. R. Alexandria

    August 8, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    I still haven’t taken a solo vacation but that’s my goal for next year. I just want some peace and quiet and it will be nice not to have to coordinate anything with anyone.

    1. My Slice of Happy

      August 8, 2017 at 10:34 pm

      If you can do it I would definitely (obviously lol) recommend it. You will have a great time and learn so much about yourself. Plus, some peace and quiet really leads to some quality relaxation 🙂

  5. Shauna

    August 11, 2017 at 9:26 am

    I’m really working on this, it isn’t easy going places alone, but I have travelled overseas by myself and it really opened my eyes to how liberating it feels! Great content hun!

    1. My Slice of Happy

      August 11, 2017 at 12:04 pm

      Good for you! I know, it can be so challenging and uncomfortable at first. But you’re so right, it’s liberating!

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